Anal sex:

by imyclit.com

    Anal sex. Do you love it? Hate it? Kinda wanna try it, but aren’t sure if you should? If you can? You’re not alone! We’ve noticed that anal sex is one of those topics that divides people into three main camps: There are those people who just don’t want to try it, not now, not ever. It’s gross, it’s weird, it’s unnatural, or hey — maybe it just doesn’t float your boat. Then, there are those people who have tried it, and don’t ever want to try it again. Because it hurt, because it was embarrassing, because they didn’t really want to do it in the first place, etc. And finally, there are those people who absolutely love it!

    A finger (or two or five) is exactly what the doctor ordered for mind blowing, toe tingling H-O-T sex! Sometimes people move from camp to camp before they finally settle down. The first time Amber had anal sex was in high school, and it was horrible! She swore it would be her first and LAST time doing it. Except… as time wore on she started thinking, “well, I’ll probably never have anal sex again.” Then she started thinking, “I really want to have anal sex, but I have so many concerns about it.”

    So, with dreams of hot (and safe) anal sex glimmering in her eye, she did exactly what every person who kinda-sorta-really-wants-to-have-anal-sex but is kinda-sorta-really-nervous-about-it should do: she bought a book.

    Now, there aren’t a whole lot of books about anal sex for women floating around out there. In fact, there’s a whopping total of one that we know of, but you know what? It’s not so bad. “The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women” by Tristan Taormino is fabulous start! We strongly recommend it for anyone at any level of anal play. It does a great job of debunking the myths about anal sex, and it is full of useful information about how to ease anal play into your sex life. We read it all of the time, and the truth is — a lot of the information we have about anal sex comes from reading that book… and, of course, from trying to figure out how to have hot anal sex that doesn’t hurt, make us blush, or make us itch! Read on…

    For some people, the whole idea of anal sex just seems kind of, well, WRONG (although they can’t always articulate why). A woman Amber knows puts it this way: “things should not go IN where stuff comes OUT.” Menstrual blood comes out of our vagina, but does that mean this woman avoids vaginal penetration? Of course not! But even after Amber pointed this out, the woman just shrugged, scrunched up her face and said, “I don’t know… I just couldn’t do it.” Hey, it’s her loss, but we’d be lying if we said we didn’t understand how she feels.

    Even for the most converted of anal sex aficionados, there are still days (usually with new partners) where anal sex just isn’t an option. Sometimes, fun as it can be, anal sex conjures up feelings of intense shame and embarrassment just by thinking about it: It’s too messy. I’m going to accidentally poop on my partner. I’ll become incontinent with too much anal sex. It hurts too much. It’s not natural. I’ll be more likely to get an STD.

    The anus is so hairy and ugly — I don’t want my partner looking at it. We don’t know about you, but these are the kinds of things we used to think all of the time! But, most of these fears are based in myth, not fact. (Myths, Myths. “Yes?” Sorry…we just couldn’t resist! If you can guess that movie, we’ll send you a set of stickers.)

—iheartmyclit.com